Charlie and I broke up yet again.
My idea. One of those “let’s-give-each-other-some-space” moments.
The timing couldn’t have been any better, he was off to Cebu City for some work related things and I could use the free time to go out and catch up with my friends.
First weekend of the “cool-off”: We weren’t calling or even texting each other, it would have been really ironic if we did and of course there’s the silent game of “who misses who first” going on and I being the one who initiated the cool-off, would not be the first to raise a white flag and so is Charlie who wants to prove a point since he really doesn’t want the idea of us taking some time-off. Charlie is older than me by 7 years. He sees me as someone he could spend the rest of his life with. His forever. I being in my first relationship, always kids him about me still feeling that I have not explored much yet.
Charlie always says that there isn’t much to explore. You will find the same thing or worse even less, something that I believe he say just to stop me from exploring.
I decided to explore and go out on a date. Well, Charlie and I are not together officially, I don’t consider it cheating and it’s just going to be a wholesome date. Movie, dinner and conversations. That’s all.
Who to date?! That is the question.
Bennet suggested I go online and find someone, which I did. Unbelievable, the world wide web is, in a span of one hour I got myself a date. He was really cute… well, in the pictures that he sent me, which were mostly face shots, close ups. The date was set.
We met in a mall, wholesome right?
We decided to meet at a bookstore; I told him that I’ll be the one holding a David Levithan book.
I waited for about ten minutes, I hate waiting.
Then he appeared right at the end of the aisle for Fiction. I smiled, he didn’t. He introduced himself rather quite seriously, like in a job interview. I thought maybe he’s nervous or something. I try to introduce myself in a more amusing way possible, a bit of self-deprecating humour. He didn’t smile. He nodded instead. Weird.
And the date still went on. I’m not even sure if he’s interested at all.
We had an early dinner, I was really trying to make a connection with him, trying to make a decent conversation, I don’t know if he was shy or arrogant but he keeps on nudging all the topics I have been opening up, I actually caught myself deliberately asking open ended question so that we could just have a conversation. I felt exhausted making a connection.
A movie date is perfect, if your date doesn’t talk. Perfect Stranger, starring Halle Berry and Bruce Willis. If this date is a movie it could have borrowed that title.
After the movie, we sort of strolled inside the mall; he was inviting me home, persistently. We all know what “Let’s-go-to-my-place” means and I started wondering if he still feels that this is not a lousy date because this is, and for a lousy date to last a dinner and a whole movie is record breaking.
He was really persistent, I don’t have any excuse up my sleeves that I could throw right off the bat, he is not ugly, it’s just that there are people that you aren’t attracted sexually.
I could not make myself to say a big effin’ NO; I’m a Capricorn for god’s sake! I’m a people pleaser!
We are on our way to the parking lot, I remembered a scene from Sex and the City where Charlotte asked Carrie to call her up so she could ditch her lousy date, I scrambled to get my phone, I texted all my friends asking them to call me up immediately.
No one called. I was already sliding down the front seat of his car, silently asking help from the small Buddha in his dashboard. Still no one called.
I just had to do the inevitable.
I texted him.
Hun, Can you call me please. Right now.
In no more than a minute my phone rang.
“Hey!” greets Charlie with a mocking tone, dangling the fact that i message first after asking for space in the first place.
“Hi Mom!“, I replied. Drama queen mode on.
“Mom?” Charlie asks,
“What? Which hospital?“, I tried to sound worried. Hopeful that a few of the acting workshops I took before are really effective.
“Are you alright babe? Are you out?” asks Charlie, a bit worried now.
“You don’t have anyone with right now?” I answered back, trying to keep Charlie’s voice out and sticking to the narrative I have in mind.
“Are you on a date? Oh my god! Are you doing a Charlotte York?“, Charlie is laughing and screaming on the other side of the phone.
“Okay, I’ll go straight to the hospital now, What did the doctor say?“, ignoring Charlie’s judging laughter.
“Yes! Go home now! That is what you get for trying to explore! Hahaha! I’ll call you up once you’re home“, Charlie says.
“Mom, I’ll be there in fifteen minutes, just wait for me.”, making sure that my voice still sounds worried.
I hang up the phone and turned to my date, he was already driving. I had to break it down to him. He seem like he already knows whats happening based on the conversation he heard.
“Sorry, it’s really an emergency, My mother is in the hospital. I have to go now.“, I tell him.
“What happened? Which hospital? I can take you there…
“Her blood pressure went up, really high. No, I can take a cab. It’s out of your way, anyway.“, I answered back.
I thanked him for the date and I immediately got off his car.
Charlie did call that night, proving his point. Laughing of course at how my plan for exploration went.
My first ever attempt to date another guy turned into a pathetic sitcom. I laughed at myself, who wouldn’t?
And yes, Charlie and I got back together.